Thinking of Filing for Divorce? Here are 4 Things to Consider First

childrenChoosing to file for divorce is no easy decision, but there is much more than just submitting your complaint to your local courts. If you’re thinking of divorce, here are four things you must do before you file.

Think: Is divorce really the best option for you?
While this may seem obvious, it is important to remember that divorce is a very emotional process. So you need to step back, leave the emotions aside, and make your final decision with a clear mind. Also, it is important to exhaust any and all hope of reconciliation before signing your papers, so give marital counseling a try before you make your final decision.

Choose a divorce attorney
Your divorce lawyer will help lead you through the complicated and sometimes long divorce process. You will want to choose a lawyer that you get along well with, but one that also completely understands your goals for the case. It is also a good idea to choose an attorney who is familiar with cases like yours, as they will have the expertise and can offer different solutions throughout the entire process.

Gather all the proper documents
The divorce process relies on documentation of all kinds; financial statements, mortgage papers, car deeds, phone records, and any other properties you own with your spouse. It is best to gather all these papers before you file, as it will only make the process easier with everything all together.

Determine your goals for your children
Your children should not suffer during the divorce process, and it is important to keep their needs at the forefront of your mind during the entire ordeal. It is a good possibility that you and your spouse will be granted joint custody, so have a few ideas prepared of potential custody options when meeting with your lawyer. Carefully sit down and review your schedule, where you live, the location of their school, and all other prior obligations to come up with your desired schedule for custody. Also, keep child support in mind, as in 2012, 26.1% of all custodial parents sought the government’s assistance collection child support.

Have any other questions about the divorce process? Call Ken Phillips Law today.

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