In the United States, approximately 42% of all marriages end in divorce, and 60% of all second marriages end in divorce. From lawyers to custody, divorce — especially when children are involved — can be an emotionally and financially draining process. And while a certain amount of grief is expected, many fail to discuss the ways in which divorce can benefit not only yourself, but your children as well.
Here are 3 unexpected benefits of divorce:
With less tension in the household, children will experience less emotional trauma.
You’re not the only one who hates when you fight with your significant other. Even if you fight behind closed doors, children are remarkably perceptive and the tension can have a great negative impact on their emotional wellbeing. They may often blame themselves for you and your spouse’s misgivings. While the initial stages of divorce can be painful for children, with the right lawyer, meditation processes and emotional provisions such as therapy, children will be happier and more relieved.
You’ll have a new lease on love.
According to statistics from mediation groups, approximately 80% of marriages deteriorate due to a lack of intimacy. While it may take time to heal the emotional wounds of a past relationship, divorce offers you a unique and rare second chance to find the person in life that completes you. Your last marriage may have not lasted, but it certainly provides you with insight and emotional maturity that you may have lacked before entering your first marriage.
A potential friendship or partnership with your ex-spouse.
When children are involved, divorces are rarely a clean break. Co-parenting requires a great deal of delegation, decision making, and compromise. While your relations with your ex-spouse might no longer feel romantic, it is still a great and venerable accomplishment to raise a family with another person. In this sense, divorce provides an ample opportunity to form a different kind of relationship, one based on partnership, compromise, and understanding.